Within all relationships lies great potential.
At New Song Counseling we offer couples therapy that integrates Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the Gottman Method, Attachment-based Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). This combined approach targets patterns, connection, and values so couples can move from reactive cycles to purpose-driven partnership.
What we focus on
Interaction patterns: Identify and interrupt recurring cycles of blame, withdrawal, escalation, or avoidance that keep problems alive.
Emotional connection: Restore safety, responsiveness, and attunement so partners feel seen, soothed, and understood.
Sexual and intimacy struggles: Address desire differences, conflict around sex, and mismatched expectations with clear communication and behavioral steps.
Values and meaning: Clarify what matters most for each partner and for the relationship as a whole, then align daily actions with those values.
Repair and accountability: Build reliable repair strategies for when conflict happens and create agreements that restore trust.
How a typical course of couples therapy looks
Assessment and goals: Initial sessions include a structured intake to understand the relationship history, strengths, recurring conflicts, and individual concerns. We co-create goals that reflect both partners’ priorities.
Skills and insight: Sessions alternate between learning concrete interaction skills (from Gottman and RLT), exploring attachment patterns, and practicing ACT techniques to manage distress and increase psychological flexibility.
Practice and accountability: Homework and in-session experiments are tailored to your goals—communication exercises, repair plans, values clarifying tasks, and behaviorally specific requests.
Progress and maintenance: As patterns shift, work focuses on consolidating new habits, addressing deeper issues (if they arise), and creating a plan for maintaining gains and handling future stressors.
Who benefits from this approach
Couples struggling with frequent conflict, gridlock, or emotional distance.
Partners facing trust ruptures, infidelity, or ongoing resentment.
Couples experiencing mismatched desire or sexual disconnect.
Those wanting to deepen intimacy, improve communication, and align daily life with shared values.
Individuals within relationships who want to change reactive patterns and increase relational responsibility.
Practical considerations
Session length and frequency: Typically 90-120 minutes weekly or biweekly, adjusted to your needs.
Confidentiality and safety: Safety is a priority. If there is ongoing abuse or safety risk, we address that directly and may recommend specialized services.
Individual work: Sometimes short-term individual sessions complement couples work to address personal issues that affect the relationship.
Homework: Expect brief, focused exercises between sessions to help new skills become habits.
What to expect in your first appointment
A short couple assessment covering strengths, problem areas, and relationship history.
A collaborative discussion of therapy goals and how the integrated model will be used.
Initial skill-building: simple communication or grounding techniques you can use right away.
A clear plan for next steps and recommended session cadence.
If you’re ready to move from patterns that repeat to a relationship that reflects your values, we’ll tailor an integrative course of couples therapy to your situation—helping you increase connection, clarity, and sustainable change.In couples sessions, you will learn how to keep discussions from overheating, when to speak up, and when to listen. Together, we’ll work on supplying you with the tools you need for greater insight into your partner’s world and how to support one another’s journey through life.
It is important that both client and therapist are a good match and the best way to determine this is with a complimentary consultation. Click below to get scheduled.